WHO ARE YOUR FRIENDS?

We move in two(s), some in squad(s) while some still chose to move in group(s) as we breathe in and out our daily breath, living all in the glorification of being and having FRIENDS.
Are those whom we point our fingers towards worth it being a friend of ours?
"SHOW ME YOUR FRIEND AND I SHALL TELL YOU, WHO YOU TRULY ARE" they say; can we uplift a seat lid to sit down and access through these questions of those to be regarded as —being a friend?

… Are they the ones that only come to you when they are in need? -and skedaddle into the thin air when you are in need of them?
… And still be the ones that claim to be your man Friday when you are on the smooth side?
… Are they the ones that forgets your existence once you are not around them?
… And still be the ones that only but always claim they [have] miss-ed you when they see you around them out of the blue?
… Are they the ones that could share our pains with us in honesty, for us to get better —if not best?
… And still be the ones that would make undoubted sacrifice for us?
… Are they the ones that respects our identity(ies) and the decisions that we make regardless?
… Are they the ones that keep pretending that they care?
… And would never think of placing a call when we are denied some rights of connection on social platforms?
… Are they the ones that make references to every secret words and phrases of ours against us when we are not around them in public?
… Are they the ones that only get to "HI" you when they see a pop up of your recent upload(s) or status read?
… Are they the ones that would always share with you the link to a particular industry not until it got expired recent minutes behind?

From what i've observed through my lens of reality thus far but i stand not be a gent of upward opinionatedness, i would say;
FRIENDS are FRIENDS that a FRIEND FRIENDS for the sake of FRIENDHOOD and not for a long-living FRIENDLINESS of true FRIENDSHIP.

Can you boast of the company you keep? And can that company boast of you (not in collectivity but individuality)? For won't they reference you to being "He's that guy" to "He's our guy".

Leave that street of neighbourhood that you were raised thinking you have friends and i'll tell you how valueless you are regarded by those you once knew to be your friends.
Graduate from your learning institution and i'll show to you how fast you'd be forgotten by those you called besties while in school.
Get laid off at your place of work and i'll tell you the secret of, you never being liked in the first place while working with those you mostly spend your time with as companions, not knowing they are nothing but mere colleagues.

Are you aware that, we get to learn more about life as we unearth through many phases or stages of it? Well, no more unbeknownst to you right from this moment and ever after.
Live with your senses being active.
Live, growing to know what you really want.
Live, knowing not to make everybody you meet a friend without proper observation and negotiation of your brains with your minds.
Live to decide with whom you want to live your life of trustworthiness with —in entirety.

Nevertheless, before you can expect a good friend or good friends, you have to learn to be one yourself. And after being a friend of someone else's, don't just follow each other blindly, help each one to grow best if not better.

Bottom Line:
Save that quality of trust for that very friend that can afford it and stop wasting it over random dreg of humans; friends do to us two things, they either push us forward or pull us back. Put a check scale on your circle of friends and lean more to those that updates you regularly, emotionally, intellectually, spiritually and mentally —it's not all about quantity of friends but quality of a friend matters most.

{This piece is dedicated to a "Friend" once nicknamed "Stranger". iThank you for what you've made me do and know ever since i encountered your existence. iHope we stay by each other's side longer enough to celebrate and rejoice over where we headed in being successful.}

Safe!

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check scale:- a scale used in a filling operation to indicate the proper filling level has been reached.
dreg:- the lowest and most worthless of something.
man Friday:- a right-hand man.
out of the blue:- in a way that was not expected; (idiomatic) unexpected.
skedaddle:- move or run away quickly.
unbeknownst:- without the knowledge of.
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ⓒ Olawuyi, Blessing Ishola.
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